How to Have the Best Sex of Your Life: Surprising Ways to Make Sex Better Even if You Are Tired, Single… or Not in the Mood

In the 'How to Have the Best Sex of Your Life' episode of 'The Mel Robbins Podcast,' Mel Robbins engages in a candid and educational conversation with Dr. Emily Morse, a renowned sex expert and host of the podcast 'Sex with Emily.' The episode is inspired by Mel's desire to improve her own sex life and to help listeners do the same, regardless of their relationship status or current level of sexual satisfaction. Dr. Emily, with her PhD in human sexuality, shares insights from her book 'Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure.' The discussion begins with Mel sharing her personal challenges, including feeling unsatisfied despite being attracted to and connected with her husband, Chris. She reveals that many listeners have similar concerns, ranging from a lack of desire to shame and overthinking. Dr. Emily emphasizes that better sex starts with a relationship with oneself and taking responsibility for one's pleasure.

The episode delves into common misconceptions about sex, such as the belief that desire should always be spontaneous and that orgasms should occur with ease and without communication. Dr. Emily explains that there are different types of desire, such as spontaneous and responsive, and that many women need more time to warm up, likening their arousal to a slow cooker. She also clarifies the anatomy involved in female pleasure, highlighting the importance of the clitoris and external stimulation. Mel and Dr. Emily discuss the detrimental impact of stress and anxiety on sex, noting that a relaxed state is crucial for arousal. Dr. Emily suggests practical strategies like scheduling sex, using the 'sex compliment sandwich' to communicate desires, and exploring solo sex to better understand one's body.

Throughout the episode, Dr. Emily provides numerous tips and exercises to improve sexual experiences, such as breathwork, the use of a 'yes, no, maybe' list to explore new activities, and addressing limiting beliefs and shame. She also answers listener questions on topics like overcoming past trauma, maintaining desire after long periods without sex, and the possibility of having sex without emotional attachment. The conversation is interspersed with moments of humor and relatability, as Mel shares her own hesitations and breakthroughs.